The Gay Scene in Thailand and Phuket
Thailand has always been more open to the LGBT community than most of Southeast Asia. Unlike many other countries in the region, Thailand has never implemented anti-gay laws. LGBT people were tolerated for a long time, but real acceptance is more recent. For example, transgender individuals, known as kathoey or “ladyboys”, have been a visible and integrated part of Thai culture for generations, but gay men didn’t even have a specific Thai word for their identity.
This cultural shift can largely be credited to the rising popularity of Thailand produced Boy Love (BL) series. These internet and TV dramas have gained massive domestic and international audiences, helping to normalize same-sex relationships and likely paving the way for greater acceptance, including Thailand’s move toward same-sex marriage equality.
A Glimpse into Thailand’s Gay History
My own journey to Thailand began 40 years ago on a business trip, and I got hooked on Bangkok’s gay scene pretty fast. At the time, places like Babylon Sauna and the Telephone Bar were where everyone ended up. Telephone Bar was my favourite, with its quirky setup. Each table featured an antique-style telephone, allowing patrons to dial and chat with others across the room. Then there was Rome Club, famous for its over-the-top drag shows and seriously good sound system. Ironically, the club grew so popular with straight audiences that a sign was eventually posted at the entrance reading, “No gays, no ladyboys,” despite its origins as a gay disco in the 1980s and 1990s. It became boycotted and closed shortly after.
Phuket’s gay venues were smaller in scale but just as lively. Most of the early bars were open-air bars located across the street from Paradise Complex in Patong. Eventually, they all moved into the Paradise Complex itself, with standout venues like The Boat Bar, My Way, and Tangmo leading the way. When I moved to Thailand in 1998, I opened Connect Guesthouse in Patong, which turned into the go-to place for the local gay community. It was the go-to spot for everything from picking up the Phuket Gay Map to grabbing a meal, using the internet, or simply connecting with others in a relaxed atmosphere.
The Impact of Technology on the Gay Scene
In Thailand, as in the rest of the world, the gay scene has changed a lot over the past few decades, mostly because of the internet and dating apps like Grindr. While these platforms make it easier to meet people, they’ve also led to the decline of physical community spaces, such as gay clubs and bars. Even Pride events, once a space exclusively for LGBT people, have shifted toward becoming inclusive celebrations for everyone.
The Gay Scene Today
In Bangkok, many of the old places have closed, including Babylon Sauna, but Silom Soi 2 and 4 are still going strong. The best spots are Circus, Balcony, Pride, Stranger Bar, and the legendary DJ Station. Late-night partygoers should head to G.O.D., conveniently located between the two sois. For dining, G’s Restaurant on Soi 4 is a must.
In Phuket, Paradise Complex in Patong remains the heart of the gay scene. ZAG and the new Cruise Club feature nightly cabaret shows, while Honeymoon Restaurant offers a quieter dining experience, hosted by Kenya, who previously ran the iconic Seahag Restaurant. If the main street feels too loud, retreat to Heaven Bar, the oldest continuously operating bar in the area, or visit Wiwat shop for stylish, locally designed clothing.
For those seeking a more relaxed atmosphere, head to the Gaythering at Phuket Gay Homestay in Kathu. This weekly Saturday event includes a dinner buffet and is the only local community gathering where you can meet a mix of locals, expats, and international visitors. The event begins at 5 PM, with dinner served at 7 PM, and wraps up by 10 PM. You can also stay at the Homestay, but be sure to book early.
What Lies Ahead for Thailand’s Gay Scene?
Same-sex marriage has officially become legal in Thailand since January 2025, with mass wedding celebrations planned in Bangkok and Phuket. Annual Pride events continue to grow in popularity, and Thailand is even bidding to host World Pride in 2030.
Pop culture helps too. Artists like David Bowie as early in 1983 to Troye Sivan in 2023 have already showcased the country in their music videos.
While some argue that today’s more open society makes dedicated gay venues unnecessary, Thailand’s progress stands in strong contrast to its neighbors. In countries like Indonesia and Malaysia, performances by openly gay artists such as Sam Smith or Troye Sivan are unlikely, as restrictive policies toward LGBT rights remain. Thailand keeps attracting the “pink dollar” and it’s earned its reputation as one of the most progressive countries in the region.
If you’re planning a trip, Phuket and Bangkok both have plenty to offer LGBT travellers, from nightlife to proper community events like the Gaythering.
